How to Write a Condolence Note

It has been over four years since my Dad bravely fought cancer and ultimately passed away. After his death, our family received an outpouring of support, including countless cards, food donations, contributions to my Dad’s chosen non-profit, and heartfelt stories about him. This wave of kindness provided us with the strength we needed during our times of sorrow.

In the neighborhood where I was raised, many families have experienced similar losses. Now, I find myself taking on the responsibility of writing condolence send a card through traditional mail. People express their support in various ways, and sometimes an email or text is just what they need. However, for us, phone calls and physical cards were particularly meaningful. Cards are keepsakes that people can cherish and revisit over time.

• Offer specific help. I truly appreciated when people said, “Let us know if there’s anything we can do.” Yet, when they provided concrete offers, it made it much easier for me to accept their help. For example, suggesting to come over for a barbecue or to prepare dinner can be incredibly comforting.
• Share stories. Telling a story about the deceased is a powerful way to honor their memory; it might even be a new tale that brings a smile to someone who truly needs it. Remember, no story is too cheesy to share. Expressing your feelings, however raw they may be, can be incredibly healing. From “This Sucks” to fond memories, all emotions are valid and appreciated.

If you’re unsure how to start a condolence note or need some inspiration, Good Housekeeping is an excellent resource to consider.